They see the porch light. Not the inside of your house.
Steadpact is accountability for couples recovering from porn. It notices explicit and suggestive content on your own device, and the person you choose sees a calm summary you agreed to. Never your screen.
How it works, and who installs what.
You install it on your own device.
The person who wants help puts it on their own Windows PC or Android phone. Nobody installs it on someone else.
You choose the light level.
Start private. When you're ready, invite one person: a partner, a friend or a mentor.
Your ally gets a calm summary.
In their free ally app, at the time they pick each week. Never your screen.
Your partner chooses how much light to see.
Most accountability apps send everything: every screenshot, every hour, even at 3 a.m. Partners end up checking all day like detectives, and the images they're sent hurt.
Here the partner picks a level, and a time of week to look. Serious events, like a bypass or an uninstall, still reach them right away.
How: a weekly word (steady, rough patch, or let's talk) and any bypass alerts; nothing else leaves the device.
How: each flagged moment as time, app, seconds and risk level, with no images.
How: a thumbnail blurred on the device before it's encrypted and sent. The original never leaves.
Weekly check-inSun 8:00 pm
Steady
Bypass attemptsNone
Hard moments, talked through1
Tue 11:42 pm · Instagram46 s · medium
Thu 1:05 am · Chrome9 s · low
Tue 11:42 pm, glimpse
Next review Sunday 8:00 pm, a time you chose. Example report.
It starts with the lights off. You turn them on.
Nobody else sees anything until you invite them, and from there the light goes up one step at a time, at your pace, and comes back down once you've been steady.
Private
Blocking, a short check-in after a hard moment, and a coach. Only you see it.
Who sees: only you
Porch light
Invite one person. They get a weekly word and any bypass alerts.
Who sees: your ally, a summary
Lit window
Flagged moments as time, app and risk, so you can talk about real evenings.
Who sees: your ally, events
Strict
For a rough season: instant blocking and an optional blurred glimpse.
Who sees: your ally, everything they chose
Turning a light on is instant. When you're struggling, you can tighten things in a second.
Turning one off waits 48 hours, and your ally is told. So a bad night can't quietly undo a good month.
There is a way down, too. After a steady stretch with no bypasses, and with your ally's agreement, it steps down a level.
And a way out. People who've been steady for a long time can move to a lighter maintenance plan.
Promises, each with the way it's kept.
An accountability app sees the most private corner of your life. So every promise here comes with the mechanism behind it, and nothing you can't check.
Your screen never leaves your device.
Recognition runs on your phone or computer. Only encrypted numbers and short text are sent, never screenshots. You're welcome to packet-capture the app and check for yourself.
It also notices suggestive posts in social apps.
Blocklists miss social media. The on-device model also recognises suggestive images, in any app or browser, so a feed full of thirst traps isn't a blind spot.
Fewer false alarms.
It weighs how long you stayed, not a single frame. A swimsuit ad you scroll past in a second scores low; forty seconds on the same post doesn't. Mark a mistake and your own device learns from it.
If it gets switched off, your ally finds out.
We don't lock your device down. Instead, if the app stops checking in, because it was uninstalled, switched off or kept offline, your ally is told.
It doesn't record the rest of your life.
It keeps no browsing history and reads no messages, and banking, password, photo and ID apps are skipped entirely.
Your account is just an email.
You don't need a phone number or your real name, and private aliases like SimpleLogin, DuckDuckGo or Apple Hide My Email are welcome. We never sell or share your data.
For partners and for the one quitting
If you're the partner
Finding out can make the ground disappear. You didn't cause this, and you don't have to become a detective to be safe.
Start here, free and with no sign-up:
See a calm summary at a time you choose.
Skip the images entirely if you'd rather not see them.
A reminder two days before any charge, so nothing comes as a surprise.
First payment refundable within 30 days.
Cancel in one place. No lifetime plans to get stuck in.
Can't afford it? Counselors and pastors will have free codes to give away.
Planned prices. They may change before launch; founding members keep theirs.
Counselors and pastors: a free account, and codes to give.
If you walk with couples or individuals through this, you'll get a free professional account to try it yourself, plus scholarship codes for people who can't pay.
We'd also value fifteen minutes of your honest feedback before launch.
Spyware is installed on someone without their knowledge and sends everything. Steadpact is installed by the person who wants help, starts private, and shares only what they and their ally agreed to. Screens are analysed on the device and never uploaded.
Can my partner read my messages or browsing history?
No. It doesn't record messages or browsing history at all. It looks for explicit and suggestive images, and the most an ally can see is time, app, seconds, a risk level, and, only if you both chose it, a blurred thumbnail.
Which devices will it work on?
Windows and Android first. iPhone is next, and Mac after that. iPhone limits what any app can see on screen, so the iPhone version will be honest about what it can and can't do.
Does it work in Instagram, TikTok and other apps?
That's the point. Because it looks at what's on screen rather than a list of websites, it works across apps and browsers, including the in-app browsers that blocklists miss.
What happens when it gets something wrong?
Nothing is judged on one frame. Short glances score low, and you can mark a false alarm, which tunes it on your own device. Your ally can choose not to see low-risk moments at all.
How do I bring this up with my partner?
If you're the one quitting, offering it yourself says more than any promise: "I want you to be able to trust me without having to check. Would a weekly summary help?" Let your partner choose the level.
If you're the partner, ask for transparency rather than control: "I don't want to search your phone any more. I'd like you to set up something that tells me if there's a slip." A counselor can help with this conversation if it keeps turning into a fight.
Is it only for men?
No. Many women struggle with porn too and find almost every resource is written for men. Steadpact is built for both, and you set your own lines for what counts.
Is it religious?
No. People of any faith or none are welcome, and the app itself has no religious content.
Who's building it?
Someone with a background in security testing, which is why privacy is designed into the architecture instead of promised in a policy. It's being built carefully, with early testers, before anyone is asked to pay.
What if I'm in crisis right now?
Please reach out to a person today. In the US, call or text 988 any time. If you're in danger, call 911. Outside the US, your local emergency number can connect you to help.
Leave the light on. We'll tell you when it's ready.